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What Does A Woman Consider Cheating?

There was a time when cheating had a simple definition, but nowadays we are more complex and less accepting of betrayal of any sort in a monogamous relationship.

So when it comes to what women consider cheating, Do women and men differ all that much when it comes to what we perceive as being unfaithful? Apparently so.cheating is different.

In order to figure out whether or not they're crossing the line with another girl, they need only picture their girlfriend doing the same thing and admit whether or not it would upset them. Unfortunately, what women consider being unfaithful goes far beyond having sex with someone else.

How would you feel if your girl was confiding in another guy about her sexual likes and dislikes? What about if she was dirty dancing in a nightclub with a guy? Would you consider that cheating? Believe it or not, a lot of women do.

Most guys -- 74%, according to an AskMen.com Dating survey -- think that cheating starts with a kiss. In other words, sexual contact constitutes cheating. For women, however, a kiss doesn't even have to be part of the equation.

100 women was surveyed and here's what some of them consider to be cheating:

Confiding in other women
Apparently, connecting with another woman on an emotional level is worse than connecting with her on a sexual level. "If he allows himself to connect with another woman, if he talks to her comfortably about the things that we should be sharing with each other, if he makes that kind of connection, then that's more hurtful to me than if he has one night of torrid sex with an anonymous woman he meets,"says Tina, 34, a chartered accountant.
How many women think it's cheating: 36%

Dancing closely
If you're at a nightclub and you start rubbing your crotch against another woman's booty, your girl might consider that being unfaithful. "When I dance with my guy, it's like we're virtually having sex," confesses Alicia, 27, an administrative assistant. "So if he does that with someone else, he obviously desires her the way he desires me, and that's unacceptable."
How many women think it's cheating: 41%

Flirting provocatively
If you joke around with the receptionist at your office, that's one thing; if you have an ongoing sexual conversation with the barrista at Starbucks, in which you describe what you want to do to her in private, then chances are you haven't told your girl about it because she might consider that a form of betrayal. "I don't mind innocent flirting, I do it all the time," admits Jennifer, 39, a dentist, "but if he's flirting with the intent of eventually getting a piece of action, then it's over."
How many women think it's cheating: 35%

Getting private dances at strip joints
There are some women who think that going to a strip joint in and of itself constitutes cheating, but not every woman in this survey did. The problem, however, surfaces when a guy pays to touch a stripper. "Logically speaking, he might as well go to a whore, because at least then he can get his rocks off. But I digress," says Helen, 23, a student. "I think that if a guy has to go to a strip joint to touch a pair of breasts, then there's a problem within the relationship. It's cheating, no doubt."
How many women think it's cheating: 79%

Engaging in cyber sex
Getting on the Net and talking sex to other women ranks high on the "cheating" scale. Masturbating while doing so is even worse. "If I discovered that my guy was yanking away to other chicks on the Internet, I'd be so hurt," says Tammy, 34, a housewife. "I pride myself on making sure my husband is sexually satisfied, so first, I'd ask him why, and if the answer is complete crap, I'd leave him.
"How many women think it's cheating: 80%

Engaging in any sort of sexual contact
I'm pretty sure you expected to see this here, and, well, here it is. If you kiss, caress, go down or have sex with another woman while you're in a monogamous relationship, you're cheating. "A boyfriend once tried to convince me that receiving oral sex was not cheating," says Rita, 46, a real estate agent, "so I told him that I was glad he didn't think so because I let a colleague go down on me the week before. Let's just say, his tune changed a little bit."
How many women think it's cheating: 100%

To cheat or not to cheat
In the grand scheme of things, you'd think that if you couldn't accept your girl doing something with another man, then you probably shouldn't do it with another woman. The difference lies in what each gender considers cheating, however.

So now that you know what many women think, it's up to you to figure out what your girl would consider cheating.

And hey, if you're not happy with your sex life for any reason, rather than find another girl to give it to, focus instead on trying to fix what you have. If your girl still won't give you any play, then perhaps you should move along and give your goods to a woman who's worthy.

The bottom line is that we all want to feel safe in a relationship and having to worry about whether or not our significant other is going to cheat does not equate that feeling.
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Don't get me wrong here. My bf isn't cheating on me. He's very sweet & caring as usual. I saw this article from a gf & I thought it's quite true... This post is meant for ALL the men who's reading my blog. Now you have read it, I expect you guys to know how to limit ya actions & be responsible to ya gfs!